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Jun. 25th, 2010

11:41 pm

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Having just watched The Last Song, and several other movies of the same genre recently, I am very irked by the ridiculously common trope of "multitalented interesting kind handsome young man falls madly in love with vapid unpleasant girl who is totally rude and unpleasant to him throughout the entire movie until finally in the last five minutes he has proved his love enough times that he gets the girl, yay."

Why does he do that? Are there really no equally kind multitalented interesting girls he could get instead? Is he just so kind that he's willing to go through all that because it's clearly the only way the girl will ever have anyone, and he'll sacrifice his own well-being to charitably give an awful person a nice relationship?

I assume this is a big reason why that sort of movie is considered a chick-flick - girls watching it empathise with the girl-character, and so see "oh a lovely man showing his undying love, how nice", but guys watching it try to empathise with the guy and see "ARGH WHAT THE HELL IS HE DOING, SHE IS AWFUL TO HIM, IT MAKES NO SENSE." And as someone I know grumbles fairly often, this sort of movie makes for horrifically unrealistic expectations for a girl, that you don't have to do anything even remotely decent to get your own perfect Prince Charming out of the blue. And then if he actually does come along, don't forget to treat him like crap!

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From:searchingbuddha
Date:June 26th, 2010 11:50 am (UTC)
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I watch and see, "ARGH, why can't they write an interesting, realistic woman for the screen?" Preferably one with some life goal other than having a meaningful romantic relationship with a man.

I too am tired of shallow vapid unpleasant women - it is writing laziness at its worst.

(I don't empathize with her. I find very little to relate to in such unrealistic characters.)
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From:notthebuddha
Date:June 26th, 2010 12:21 pm (UTC)
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Even if that sort of unreasoning love is due to some irrational neurological imprinting like ducklings following a box pulled along behind a naturalist with a string, it can still be a spiritually enriching and fulfilling life experience when you are finally united with the object of your passion, much like an alcoholic taking up bartending as a trade.

...or not.
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From:offensive_mango
Date:June 27th, 2010 08:49 pm (UTC)
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Urgh, (some) girls don't like that sort of thing either, because it shows men that REALLY they're lovely and kind and talented and REALLY all they have to do is keep hacking at a woman's defenses even if she seems totally uninterested, because she'll eventually give in because REALLY men deserve to get whatever and whomever they want!
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From:ravenblack
Date:June 27th, 2010 09:38 pm (UTC)
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That's a good point too. Lucky for you most men hate the whole genre! Unfortunately they just have that belief anyway!
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From:scribblette
Date:July 11th, 2010 05:04 pm (UTC)
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Yahuh. I've noticed that there is very little educating of females to romance the man too. Play hard to get or be silent when you don't get what you want, he'll understand and give you everything.

Gah.

While we're at it, diamond solitaires as engagement rings are a horrible stereotype. My girl has a lovely 'looks like you tied the knot' style ring with small stones that still manages to sparkle aplenty, yet whenever I think about it I continue to feel like my bits are represented by the size of a rock on her finger. A rock she constantly has to take off anyway for work/swimming/everything, so the fact it ISN'T horribly expensive is a load of our minds... but.. bah.
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From:ravenblack
Date:July 12th, 2010 01:56 am (UTC)
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I very much agree with anger at diamond solitaire 'tradition'.
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